Pitiful

Pathetic.

It’s the only word I can sum up to describe the deluded behavior of X who sat in Colorado, mostly unemployed while his mother died slowly an ocean and half a continent away. Apparently his pride was too overweening to allow him to go home, even to the point of not seeing his mother before she died. Hope that pride fits really well 10 years from now, X. Oh, and X? That “eulogy” you wrote for your mother’s memorial service? Well, kiddo, eulogies are supposed to talk about the dear departed, not about *you*. Although, looking at your behavior, your “eulogy” is perfectly in character. Delusional and totally self-centered.

What X doesn’t realize is that he’s probably lost his family along with his mother. There’s going to come a day, probably not too far down the road, when he is once again going to need help from his family and what they are going to remember is that he wasn’t there when things were bad. That he basically did a passive cut and run by not being a part of the family and putting himself and his wants ahead of his family. By sitting in Denver and binge drinking in the service of unpaid blogging while his mother died by inches. Yep, really things to be proud of. Meaningful.

X, there is not going to be any amnesty. You aren’t going to become an overnight success and “buy” your way into this country. Hopefully, you’ll be bright enough to leave before you get caught and deported and while there’s time to salvage something resembling a useful life out of the wreckage. If you keep going, you will shortly be a 35-year-old with bad teeth, living in some squalid rented room and yattering to yourself about how success and citizenship is right around the corner. Unfortunately, you’ve ended up a bit long in the tooth to be a boy wonder and you are fast slouching toward being just another loser with an unearned opinion of himself.

As for Y, who demanded a public apology from me for the private message in which I scolded X for his foolishness? You’ll die waiting. If for no other reason, than that your indignant message about being X’s emotional support proves that you are a barefaced liar, because you’d been insisting that you hadn’t been having much of any contact with him for months. Riddle me this, dearie – how do you emotionally support someone you aren’t in contact with?